The truth is, you may not even have a choice…
The sobering reality that’s going on in basically most of North America is that there is an upward trend of people becoming more obese. Recently I was reading a CDC article that stated that 42.4% of Americans are obese. This is a rise of +11.9% from where we were in 1999 / 2000 when the obesity rate was 30.5%, to where we are today when this CDC article was written in 2017 / 2018.
Not only is the current rate of obesity at 42.4% of the population, but the rates of severe obesity are rising as well. Severe obesity has risen from 4.7% to 9.2% within the same span of time.
Severe obesity (Class 3) is defined as Someone who has a BMI score of 40, or higher.
Personally, I think dating an obese man is a no-go. Let me explain…
Table of Contents
1. Someone’s body is a clue of their lifestyle
Every time I look over my life I come to the realization that whenever I was living my most fulfilled self, I was also physically at my Peak. When I was fit, not only did I feel good I was confident and outgoing because I knew that I looked my best. To coincide with that, whenever I’ve been going through parts of my life that have been rough, I’ve looked the part. These periods of roughness have been accompanied by increased weight gain and other physical signs of unhealthiness. Needless to say, I just didn’t look good. Not only did I not look good, but I also didn’t FEEL good.
2. Physically can’t do Certain Tasks
I feel like this one kind of speaks for itself in a lot of different ways for some obvious reasons but I’ll elaborate. Whenever you have a certain amount of weight on your body, things generally just tend to be more difficult. I’m going to use myself as an example here. I used to love going out and playing sports and was very active during my high school years with sports and outdoor activities. When I made the transition back home to a different city, I was taken out of that environment where I was extremely active and so I didn’t keep up my workout regimen.
This lapse in an exercise regimen led to me gaining weight and eventually to what I think of today as a snowballing effect. The longer I went without exercising the harder it got to actually exercise. This of course led to me not wanting to exercise at all. The effect here created a negative feedback loop which saw my weight balloon and my ability to go do activities that I used to love, diminish.
It’s important to make sure that if you are going to date an obese man or, somebody who happens to have extra weight on them, you may have to make sure their lifestyle can fit yours.
3. Overweight Men Are Funnier
Now, this is one idea that I think actually holds true. Hear me out …
In my mind and the experience I’ve had in the dating world, overweight guys tend to be funnier. My theory on why this happens to be is pretty straightforward.
I believe overweight guys tend to be funnier because they know that their extra weight reduces their overall sex appeal.
To compensate for this, they choose a different path and try to be great with humor. I mean, in my mind at least, it’s pretty obvious. Whenever I see someone who happens to be very attractive, they’re usually leaning on their features to carry them forward.
Chances are, they haven’t developed a strong personality, etc.
Time and time again I’ve seen guys who many would consider “not very attractive” with some pretty cute girls. Every time I’ve tried to analyze the situation in my head, it’s always come down to the fact that:
- They’re smooth at talking to girls
- They’re actually pretty funny
- They’re confident in who they are personally
4. What Others Are Saying
Scrolling through the closest thing I could actually find to actually talking to people who have dated a guy who is obese, I landed on the website Quora. Now I’m going to be the first person to say that obviously, Quora is not the Paragon of Truth or consistency. However, I think in this instance it’s pretty interesting to see some of the responses people have been giving on the topic.
For instance, one contributor named Elaine reflected very similar views to a lot of the other women on this thread which was, primarily, there almost was never any problem with the guy’s personality per se.
The issue’s started arriving when anything related to being adventurous was talked about or tried. Meaning whether or not they wanted to go on hikes or runs around their neighborhood.
Another contributor brought up that for her relationship, it was more of the same. Again, she said that not being able to walk far and do things was an active mainstay. Not only that, but they would also have to be in close proximity to areas where they could stop for a second and take a break to rest.
“He hated walking more than 2 blocks past his apartment and was particular about us going to ‘his’ apartment, even though it’s much further from work for both of us, just because there was a tad more space.”
– Anonymous
To be fair though it does sound like the girl in question was an active person normally. And, as someone who describes herself as being a “120 lb woman,” She probably was in pretty good shape. Obviously, this is going to create tension in a relationship.
To Summarize
To be quite frank, my honest answer would be no.
While most people in life may not choose to have a partner that is on the heavier side, some inevitably do.
In my opinion, it really comes down to the person you will be dating. I am going to place heavy emphasis though on lifestyle and quality of life. If the person you’re thinking of dating is overweight but can still move adequately, then that isn’t the end of the world. Sure, it’s not ideal, but at least they’re still mobile.
Try it out, that’s why it’s called dating. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, now you will have experience in a realm of dating that you wouldn’t of before.
